As a community care worker you look after the elderly within the comfort of their own homes.
You have limited time to do this racing between the houses within less than a few minutes, don’t forget ringing in so that they can record your time. This is when the job starts, whatever they may need such as assistance in changing, washing etc. Creating friendships with the service users.
With the elderly many are lovely but everyone has illnesses or is struggling with the side effects of aging. This is hard to see as you can relate to many on personal levels and you become incredibly close with these people. They become crucial members of your everyday life. They give you advice, mine was typically on relationships or love which I thoroughly enjoyed and applied to my everyday relationships. Knowing when the person is the one and being told to never give up no matter how hard it gets. My favourite memory was of this one woman, her face would light up the room as soon as I gazed upon her, she always knew how to cheer up my day or make my time at hers go incredibly quickly. The laughter, banter and advice that I received off of this woman has had a great impact on my day to day live. Her marriage story was unique. So I will try and tell this story and give it the justice that it deserves keeping it within her words. To keep this anonymous no names will be used.
“Back in the time of the war everything was different. People lived differently. They danced, they worked hard and lived spontaneously life to the fullest. They truly knew the meaning of living. Now, one major dilemma that I faced was the hard decision of picking between two men, both with the same first name and same initials. One man being a pianist; oh how he knew how to play, he was risky, living on the edge similar to me, oh the fun we used to have, he always smiled and the adventures that we would go on were brilliant. The other man being a quieter soul, charming, incredibly safe and oh how he could make me laugh. The safer bet yes, he was simple, he very worked hard and enjoyed the simplicities of life. His hug was always warm and he could ground my free spirit like no one else could. I felt a type of security and I knew that I was home. That this yes safer bet made my life complete. We balanced each other out and most importantly laughed. If you can laugh through the hard times together, that’s when I knew I was with the one. He took care of me, we had tremendous laughs and a simple life, having wonderful children, grandchildren and now little great-grandchildren. Sadly, he is no longer here, he passed a while back and my life has never been the same. You’d start talking or laughing at the Television expecting to see his wonderful laughing as well as there’s no face anymore. Just an empty chair, just the simple company, with all the children having create lives of their own you expect to grow old with the love of your life. The hardest part is when one of you dies before the other. It’s like a piece of your heart is missing. That’s why I love going in the garden so much, you see he was an avid gardener. We spent ages their together. Now I sit in my chair with a cup of tea looking at our masterpiece. Remembering the hard work, we both put in, the love he used to have working out there. It brings me back to him, knowing that he’s probably up their looking down proudly on this beautiful masterpiece that we have created. He’s my greatest story, my greatest adventure and greatest love of my life. Oh how I wished he was still here… You know I would never change picking him, he was the best choice that I could’ve made and I would still make that choice again. Although he is not with me he still lives on brightly in our children, grand-children and even great-grandchildren. Oh you would’ve loved him, people just loved him, he got along with everyone, his charming nature just captured everyone’s attention. So I say to you now, I know you have a choice to make, go with your heart and head, listen to both and follow your instincts as they could lead you to something great like did mine. When you find this no matter how hard things get promise me you’ll fight for what you want, don’t give up easily and sometimes the simplest of things make the greatest impact on your life. Look beyond the extravagance and look inside at every person that walks into your life, know them and not the exterior person that they want you to see as their inner self might pleasantly surprise you.”
My plea to you following all of this is to always take the time out of your busy schedule to speak to people as you never know what hides underneath and what is truly important to them. You never know it could help your own life or make you appreciate the simplest of things. The elderly can be lonely, they miss loved ones, have been through many hardships and just sometimes want company. The simplicities of lives are sometimes more important than the extravagant ones, they could change your life for the better and make you realise what is truly important in life; That is someone to love and to love you in return. So if you ever find this don’t let it go, fight hard for person you love and weather the storms that will inevitably arise.
So my question to you readers following being told this; Is stable always the right choice?